By Hilde Amundsen, founder Mindfit app

You may have very different thoughts and feelings about yourself as a person, and about yourself in specific roles – as a parent, a partner or a friend, or in how you cope with your work life.

It can be more important for us to have a sense of mastery in some areas, or to have good feelings about what we do, while in other areas it may not be as important to us. It is different for different people. We are influenced by our own inner voice and our experience of how we cope, in addition to the feedback we get from the environment around us.

It’s completely normal to have good and bad days. Self-esteem can fluctuate from day to day or from situation to situation, and you may feel more confident in some contexts than in others.

We are all influenced by past experiences. They help shape the thoughts you have about yourself in different situations. This, in turn, affects how you react in similar situations later on.

How Mastery Builds Inner Strength

An example:
I have always heard that I am “extremely good at driving,” even from when I first started taking driving lessons. I have also felt that I have mastered this skill quite well. This message has affected me and my self-esteem when it comes to driving. I have also amassed a lot of positive experiences that confirm that I am good at it.

What if I had not had such a good start as a driver? What if my driving teacher had told me that I was a weak driver, might I have become a more uncertain and poor driver? Driving might have also been turned into something very difficult for me.

This is an example of how you and your surroundings can help determine if you have a positive or negative experience in relation to mastery.

What you think about yourself influences your life!

You can work on changing the way you think about yourself in different situations. Confidence and self-esteem are perishable.

Often, the positive is overlooked, and it’s much easier to get caught up in the negative.

Focusing on positive experiences is important in helping you to learn how to develop your sense of mastery, so that you are better able to deal with both the positive and negative things that happen in your life. In doing this, you will see what energizes you in your daily life, so that you become more aware of your priorities and what you want spend more time doing – and will be more satisfied with your life.

Positive versus negative experiences

I would like to share excerpts from some of the feedback we have received from satisfied Mindfit users, which illustrates just how effective this approach can be –focusing on positive experiences rather than the negative.

• “A few years ago, I worked as an IT consultant and received calls from frustrated employees. I felt like there were so many angry customers! It ruined my days”.

  
  

  But then I started recording the feedback I received on two separate lists:

• The grumpy, upset ones on one list. And the positive, friendly, patient, and kind ones on another.

• Guess which list was filled up first? Yes, the positive list won! By a very large margin.

  
  

  Something also happened to my focus while I was recording. I learned to see how many nice customers we had. And they were truly amazing! That’s why I know this is the right method. This trick teaches you to focus on what gives you energy and joy to keep moving forward in life. That’s why I bought Mindfit the moment I discovered it. With the Mindfit method, I found something to focus on – things I master. It concretely shows me that I am mastering it, which is amazing! It gives me energy, joy, and belief in myself. Heartfelt thanks for Mindfit.

  
  

  This app is really the answer to many problems I’ve had my whole life. I so often put myself in the ‘doghouse’ and regret so many strange things I say and do to others. I often think: ‘I’m so weird…’ But now I’ve turned the trend by focusing on the good things.

How does it work?

People commonly find that by keeping track of positive events, negative thoughts and feelings are weakened – just by virtue of keeping track. This happens because you give yourself permission to shift your focus from the things you can’t manage to the things that you can. That gives you more room for other thoughts, and the negative thoughts and feelings shift more into the background.

Sometimes it can be difficult to get started finding positive experiences.

• Remember that small things count too. Don’t give up!
• Perhaps you have made someone else happy, or you can record things you like or appreciate – things that mean something to you.

You are often your own harshest critic and set your own limitations.

Ready to change your inner dialogue ? Download Mindfit and start recording your positive experiences today!